I was scrolling through my INSTAGRAM feed one day and saw this quote by Diane von Furstenburg and I couldn’t agree more.
You are always with yourself. When you wake up, when you go to work or school, everywhere you go. You may be with others too sometimes but, when you are alone, do you enjoy YOU? Well, you should.
I am a firm believer of “Me time”. I even take myself out on dates! And yes when I was in a relationship I did too. And no it isn’t pathetic, not at all! There is no one on this Earth and I mean NO ONE who will treat you better than you can treat yourself. When you hear people say “You can’t love someone until you love yourself”, well, it’s true! Humans have this sense where we can tell the people who really care about themselves and those who don’t without them saying anything. It’s an aura, seriously. If you don’t even enjoy your own company, what makes you think someone else would?
People become so attached to their friends and partners they start to lose a sense of SELF. Nothing wrong with being around others but when you make time for yourself, you start to learn more about yourself. For example, when going through a break-up people will tell you to take some time to be alone first before you jump back into a relationship. This helps because you don’t want to start something new with someone and you make the same mistakes. That “Me time” after a break helps because you figure out your likes and dislikes. You figure out who you are and the type of person you really want to be with. It isn’t a time to evaluate the old relationship and think about what went wrong. It’s time to move forward, do things you like to do that maybe you didn’t do so much of while in your relationship. When you aren’t whole as a person and you get into a relationship, you start to mold into the person you are dating. Their likes become your likes etc. Not to say you can’t have similar interests, but you compromise what makes you happy in order to please them. But that’s another topic I will save for later for you all.
I find the problem is that a lot of people are SCARED to be alone. Just because you are alone doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. There are plenty of things I enjoy and I find interesting that my friends wouldn’t but I don’t trip off of them not joining me. I just go alone and I enjoy myself. I love taking myself on “Solo Dolo” dates as I call them. I get dolled up and I go to the movies, out to dinner, to museums, to plays, and guess what……I HAVE A GREAT TIME! Going to the movies alone is great because you don’t have to worry about someone talking to you during the movie! Lol. I think society also plays a major part in making people afraid to be alone. You see on TV and in magazines and blogs how to find the perfect mate, how to find the perfect friends blah blah blah. It’s like everywhere you go someone is with someone and if you aren’t you’re the LOSER…..WRONG! In my opinion it displays confidence. You don’t need someone else to make you whole. Go out there and live your life and enjoy it! Family, friends, boyfriends and girlfriends are awesome, but show yourself that same attention you would show to them.
So my friends, enjoy your own company. Find a new hobby you can do alone, find something interesting that you never tired before and do it. Read a new book. There are tons of things to do in your own company. Trust me, you will start to learn a lot about yourself and you will be a happier person.